The daunting helicopter parenting

As Sri Chaitanya, Narayana trend slowly fades away, there is this new pressure of being a ‘know-it-all’ on today’s kids

By Author  |  Published: 12th Mar 2019  7:19 pm
helicopter parenting

Those were the days when kids’ school bags were too heavy, disappointment of missing PT period before exams was a norm, and the goal was always pretty clear — an excellent academic record. The pressure to achieve that goal has weighed hard on the kids’ shoulder.

Well, the days have changed; the bags have become lighter and the extracircular activities have become a proud norm. This generation’s student life is all sunshine and rainbows with all the excursions, regular outings, setting up stalls, and winning hearts with onstage performances — one might say.

But, are they really? Did the weight of pressure finally lift off in today’s advanced day and age? Does this young generation really have the me-time intact?

While we would to love to believe that time changed things for good, the entrance of something called ‘helicopter parenting’ has made the whole picture get distorted. Yes, we have moved on from the hectic schedules of Narayana and Sri Chaitanya; and it’s not the study hours that haunt today’s kids, it’s that music class after school and the cricket coaching through summer that seems to bother them.

Where is the time when kids could get to simply do nothing? Where is the me-time when they can actually sit down and figure out what they actually like?

“I don’t know how to play my strengths despite being the ideal all-rounder the society wanted me to be. I still can’t make the decision of what stream to choose as a career but, I am confident that I’ll be good at whatever my parents/mentors choose for me,” says Niharika, an intermediate student.

It’s kind of sad and leaves that sense of emptiness when somebody is in this sort of situation and the “too many suggestions that I receive on a daily basis is not making it any better”, she sighs.

So, there it is… a fully competent student feeling empty after acing both in and out of school. Parents being micromanagers and unintentionally resorting to helicopter parenting are resulting in such stressful results. Nobody can be Kohli-level cricketers and mathematical scholars all at the same time; and if they are, then, it should be on their terms.

However, at the end of day, parents want nothing but good things for their kids. “As someone who hasn’t benefitted from being at the top of my class almost all the times, I would want my kid to be something more than academics. For me, personal development is more important, I would want to see my son conduct appropriately among a group of people, and, in the future, I would want to him to take the decision of what he wants to be,” says Anjali (name changed), a proud mother of a four-year-old, whose efforts as a parent go in that direction; to make her son a good, independent individual.

To wrap it up, parenting needs work and hovering over your kids all the time is not the way to go. It is alright if your son doesn’t want to do nothing at times and it is normal if your daughter is not good at both science and sports. So, may be, #SayNoToHelicopterParenting. After all, parents have the best interests of their children in mind, always!