Relationships: Handle With Care
Isn’t it so ironic that throughout our life we struggle hard to maintain our relationships & yet we cannot achieve that perfect balance in our relations, be it personal or professional.
Our lives revolve around the relationships that we have inherited by birth as well as the ones that we made after birth and also they continue after we rest in peace i.e death. Isn’t it so ironic that throughout our life we struggle hard to maintain our relationships & yet we cannot achieve that perfect balance in our relations, be it personal or professional.
It’s a fact that all of us are living a fast-paced life where we get extremely busy accumulating financial assets and physical comforts. So lost have we got in this race to achieve something that we hardly find time to sit back and think as to where our relationships are heading to.
Our craze for materialism has made us forget that material belongings are devoid of meaning if there is no peace or happiness within. Today we have reached a stage where instead of humans we have made smart gadgets, material belongings & social status as our companions. We are gradually getting transformed into machines with no heart, feelings or emotions. As a result, our relationships have become strained.
There is a well-known saying that ‘we see things not as they are but as we are’. While our physical eyes see everything and everyone the same way, it is actually the thoughts and feelings that form an impression in the mind about what we are seeing. So, if our feelings are light and pure, we feel the same way about everything we see.
On the other hand, if we are in a negative frame of mind, we might perceive things negatively. We fail to understand that whether it’s friendship or relationship, all bonds are built on trust. Hence we should try our best to remain safe from a dreadful habit called assumption which creates mistrust leading to suspicion, anger, enmity & finally separation.
We should also refrain from playing the blame game that’s the biggest hindrance in maintaining good relations. Its normal for all of us to blame the opposite party in case of a failed relationship. However when we point one finger at someone, the other three are pointing at us, so it is better to take personal responsibility and accept our own folly rather than create an environment of hatred for each other.
A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out, do we go and buy a new house? Not really, we fix the bulb and move on. Same applies to our relationships too, we keep on nursing our ego to such an extent that it leads to misunder¬standing, creating a heavy atmosphere.
We also forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. Mistakes can be overlooked but the actions performed in anger will bother us forever. Therefore we should always give value to our relationships & should make an effort to nurture them, rather than losing them on trivial matters.
Supreme Almighty has the capacity to fulfill all relationships with us. Hence, when we experience the relations of father, teacher, preceptor, companion and friend with HIM, then it becomes easy to give love to all other human beings & leads us to the understanding that we are all children of the same father and need to take care of everyone around us.
Lastly we should not forget that a real relationship has trust, faith, tears, fights, pain, arguments, patience, secrets, jealousy and over all – LOVE. So, love all and get loved in return by all. This is the key to positive & peaceful living.
– By Rajyogi Brahmakumar Nikunj ji, Spiritual educator & popular columnist
