Hyderabad: Cameron Diaz appeared on ‘The Drew Barrymore Show’ on Wednesday and gave her fans some useful dating advice. The ‘Knight and Day’ actor introduced the concept of “hardballing” to Barrymore and her co-host Ross Matthews.
The term means being clear about one’s relationship expectations from the beginning and moving on if they aren’t met. Matthews shared a story about one of his friends who had been unknowingly implementing the concept into her dating life, as reported on ‘People’.
“I have a girlfriend who kept saying, ‘These guys keep leaving me, they keep leaving me,’ (and), I go, ‘Well, what are the first dates like?’. She said, ‘Well I ask them if they want kids.’ Girl, what are you doing on date one? You don’t ask if you want kids, you ask if you like pizza or the colour blue.”
Diaz said Matthews’s friend sounded like “a natural hardballer”. “She is like, ‘This is what I want, are you in?’ So, she shouldn’t be looking at it that they are leaving her, she should be going, ‘You know what, you don’t add up to me, you’re not at my place, but that’s okay’,” Diaz continued. “Then, you at least know that we are not in the same place. And I think that’s what dating is all about.”
“I think it’s important to know what you want,” Matthews agreed. “And when you see it, hold onto it. And if you find something that’s not for you, don’t be afraid to move on.” Diaz concluded with another wise piece of advice: “And mostly if the other person is not holding onto you, let go of them.”